ARE YOU ABUSED?


ARE YOU ABUSED?
 Does the Person You Love…
 · “Track” all of your time and activities?
 · Constantly accuse you of being unfaithful?
 · Discourage your relationships with family and friends?
 · Prevent you from working or attending school?
 · Criticize you for little things?
 · Anger easily when drinking or on drugs?
 · Control finances and force you to account for what you spend?
 · Humiliate you in front of others?
 · Destroy personal property or sentimental items?
 · Hit, punch, slap, kick, or bite you or your children?
 · Threaten to hurt you or your children?
 · Use or threaten to use a weapon against you?
 · Force you to have sex against your will?
 
 MYTHS vs. FACTS About abuse
 
Myth: Violence in families affects only a small percentage of the population.
 Fact: 2-4 million women are beaten every year; in Oklahoma, 340,000 women are beaten on a regular basis every year; the FBI says that a woman is beaten every 15 seconds in the United States.

Myth: Poor families are more likely to experience violence than middle income and affluent families.
 Fact: Violence in families crosses all economic, class, race, and educational levels.

Myth: Drinking causes violent behavior.
 Fact: Although drinking and/or drug abuse are present in over half of all violent incidents, abusive behavior will not stop when substance abuse stops. Alcohol and drugs may lower inhibitions permitting more aggressive behavior.

Myth: Wife abuse doesn’t cause serious injuries.
 Fact: 40% of women killed in the United States are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends. Emergency rooms report that the majority of cases of women seeking treatment for injuries are the result of abuse.

Myth: Religious faith prevents violence in families.
 Fact: Persons of faith are no less vulnerable to abusive relationships than the general population. In some cases, religious beliefs are used by the abusers to justify their forceful and controlling behavior, and to obligate victims to remain in destructive situations that threaten their physical safety and emotional well-being.

Myth: Children need their father even if he is abusive.
 Fact: Children need a stable, nurturing environment, free of fear and chaos, in which their self esteem will be preserved and enhanced.

Myth: Witnessing abuse doesn’t affect children.
 Fact: Children who witness violence are 700 times more likely to abuse or be abused as adults than children who grow up in non-violent homes.

Myth: Once a batterer, always a batterer.
 Fact: Battering is learned behavior and it can be changed. Help is available.

Myth: A battered woman can always leave home.
 Fact: There is no law compelling a battered woman to remain in an abusive situation. However, there are a number of reasons that make leaving extremely difficult.

Myth: There is no help available for a woman wanting to get out of an abusive relationship. There is no place available to help her and her children.
 Fact: Help is available. No woman has to remain in an abusive relationship because she has no place to go and no money to go. Any sheriff’s office or police department can help a woman obtain this assistance.

THERE’S NO EXCUSE FOR ABUSE!